The growing disorder of problem sexuality, addiction and abuse in New Zealand is complex and pervasive, and requires specific and effective treatment by therapists trained in this field. To meet this accelerating demand, we’re pleased to announce:
“There has never been a more urgent time in the history of human sexuality in New Zealand for community-based treatment programmes that confronts the disorder of sexual addiction. Such a therapeutic response is long overdue when considering the damaging effects to individuals and families of this silent phenomenon. Sexual addiction is on a continuum that includes: Problem Sexuality, Addiction and Abuse.”
David Moore
STEPS Founder, Counsellor and Author
Living and Loving Freely Programme
Professionals interested in a SHIFT New Zealand business opportunity include:
Counsellors
Therapists
Health Professionals
Addiction Practitioners
Alcohol and Drug Treatment Centres
Professional Programme Endorsements
THE FIRST SEX ADDICTION TREATMENT FORUM
Thank you for your participation in the review of the clinical assessment profile of the Living and Loving Freely programme, on 23 April 2016.

David Moore
David Moore has worked with the crisis of problem sexuality, addiction and abuse for over twenty five years. He is a member of ANZMH and DAPAANZ.

John Groom
John Groom MA (Hons) Dip Tchg. Dip Bus. has been in the facilitation business all his working life. An experienced adult educator, John’s specialty is creating environments in which people can learn.
If you would like to host, or attend, a review forum in your area contact us for more detail.
Living and Loving Freely Programme Practitioner
Becoming a STEPS Practitioner of the Living And Loving Freely Treatment Programme will involve operating the full range of programmes, comprising the following:
STEPS Assessment Profile
The STEPS assessment profile is a sexual health assessment that has identified three levels of sexual addiction:
- The first is passive addiction – losing control,
- The second is compliant addiction – lost control, and
- The third is clinical addiction – out of control.
Completing a STEPS Assessment is an excellent place for conducting a foundational sexual health assessment to define where you are on the continuum, where problematic sexuality has taken you and how to overcome its devastating influence.
The STEPS Assessment will be available towards the end of 2015. If you would like us to let you know when it’s ready, please leave us your details here.
Module 1: A Retreat for Beginners and Winners
Programme Outline:
What’s important about Living and Loving Freely? – Being defined by a life that is within your grasp
Introducing ourselves, by sharing our stories
Why vulnerability can feel empowering
What I want from doing this programme – A questionnaire about choices
Assessing triggers, red flags and impulse control – Detailing your recovery strengths and weaknesses
Understanding problematic sexuality, addiction and abuse – Describe the impact that knowledge is having on our life and relationships
Why recovery can be hard – None of us knows, or recovers, as much as all of us together
AIM strategies of Assessment, Intervention and Managemen – Journaling the journey of quality outcomes
Assessing remaining challenges and positive recovery outcomes
Module 2: The Road to Recovery and Relapse Prevention
Programme Outline:
Identifying critical challenges and pressure points
Starting with what is hurting
Turning critical challenges into priority goals and anchor points
The objectivity of self-regulating, self-evaluating and self-validating
The recovery tool box
Combining will with skill
Assessing triggers, red flags and impulse control
Detailing your recovery strengths and weaknesses
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques
Changing the way you think can affect the way you behave
Developing your relapse prevention plan
Moving from relapse intention to relapse prevention
Assessing remaining challenges and positive recovery outcomes
Module 3: Building Momentum in Recovery and Relapse Prevention
Programme Outline:
Sexual narcissism
Confronting self preoccupation
Authentic Self
Unmask your false self – by discovering your true self
Moral Inventory
The process and power of forgiveness
Assessing triggers, red flags and impulse control
Detailing your recovery strengths and weaknesses
Growing up emotionally
Unlocking your emotions for healthy living
Monitoring the progress of your relapse prevention plan
The importance of intervention versus management
Assessing Remaining Challenges and Positive Recovery Outcomes
Module 4: Life Beyond Recovery and Relapse Prevention
Programme Outline:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques
Changing the way you think can affect the way you behave
Cultivating spirituality and alternative highs
The virtue ethics of higher purpose and meaning to life
Communication
People skills that create healthy connection
Assessing triggers, red flags and impulse control
Detailing your recovery strengths and weaknesses
Relationships
Living and Loving Freely
Giving back
Life beyond ourselves
Monitoring the priorities of your relapse prevention plan
Living with accountability and relapse prevention
Assessing remaining challenges and positive recovery outcomes
WISE - Women’s Intervention, Support and Empowerment Programme
WISE Partner Support Group is a programme run by women for women, who have been impacted by their partner’s problematic sexuality, addiction or abuse.
WISE Programme Outline
WISE: Women’s Intervention, Support and Empowerment
- A place of confidence, healing and resolve
- None of us know as much as all of us together
- Sharing your story with those who understand your pain
- When you know you’re not to blame but live as though you are
- The trap of becoming a volunteer to your own victimisation
- Processing the stages of grief
- Dealing with the evidence without it destroying you
- Defining and dispelling ‘all the myths’
- Understanding your partner’s problem sexuality by undertaking a joint STEPS Assessment Profile
- Getting the right professional help for both of you
- Process your own historic default patterns of co-dependency, passivity, controlling or perfectionistic behaviours etc
- Create your own recovery pathway
This series of six programmes is a vital tool in the treatment of problematic sexuality, addiction and abuse. Workbooks are provided for each programme.
WISE Partner Support Group Facilitator
Women’s Intervention, Support and Empowerment Programme
What is WISE?
WISE Partner Support Group is a programme run by women for women, who have been impacted by their partner’s problematic sexuality, addiction or abuse.
WISE Programme Outline
WISE: Women’s Intervention, Support and Empowerment
- A place of confidence, healing and resolve
- None of us know as much as all of us together
- Sharing your story with those who understand your pain
- When you know you’re not to blame but live as though you are
- The trap of becoming a volunteer to your own victimisation
- Processing the stages of grief
- Dealing with the evidence without it destroying you
- Defining and dispelling ‘all the myths’
- Understanding your partner’s problem sexuality by undertaking a joint STEPS Assessment Profile
- Getting the right professional help for both of you
- Process your own historic default patterns of co-dependency, passivity, controlling or perfectionistic behaviours etc
- Create your own recovery pathway
Qualifying Criteria
A WISE facilitator will require a different qualifying criteria to that of a Living and Loving Freely practitioner.
Sexual Addiction Mentor
SAM
What is SAM?
SAM is a sex addiction mentor who provides practical back up support to the addiction practitioner, within a Living And Loving Freely group therapy programme.
Qualifying Criteria
A Sexual Addiction Mentor will require a different qualifying criteria to that of a Living And Loving Freely practitioner.
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Next Steps
Based on your area/s of interest, please select from the following:
- Following each forum, those interested in a business opportunity with STEPS will be able to evaluate and review the remainder of the STEPS five programmes once each workbook is completed (during 2016/17).
- The official launch of the STEPS Living and Loving Freely™ treatment programme is planned for 2017. This time frame will allow for further sex addiction treatment forums, consideration, consultation and due diligence.
- Becoming a STEPS Addiction Practitioner or STEPS Addiction Facilitator will require individuals to meet the STEPS License Agreement terms and conditions. The status of ‘Sex Addiction Practitioner’ would be given as part of existing qualifications and professional membership.
- Please note: The media will not be invited to the above treatment forums.
- The status of WISE partner support group facilitator or sex addiction mentor requires a different qualifying criteria.
- This business opportunity includes a licence agreement, and a background understanding of the author’s programme methodology, which will be available on or before the end of March 2016.
- All Sex Addiction Treatment Forums are proudly supported by STEPS (Steps To Ending Problem Sexuality), The Living and Loving Freely™ Treatment Programme, CrossRoads Counselling Centre Ltd and Growth for Both Retreats.